Pick Up Lines Don’t Work? Then Find The Charming You!
Dating girls is so easy today that your grandpa should be green with envy:
Today, you can find millions of beautiful girls online. Just look around you: First, they are on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And here is what is even more exciting: You also literally find millions of single women on the social networks. Yes, I am talking literally about millions. In fact, there are over 100 million women on MySpace. And there are another 60 million girls on facebook, with those numbers growing each day by the ten thousands.
Let’s be honest: That’s plenty of fish! You could be the most social guy in your whole area — and still, the number of hot women you might meet this way would totally fade in comparison.
You can actually compare flirting on dating sites with flirting on a singles party in your town. Social networking, on the other hand, would be more like meeting your dream girl through your circle of friends. And isn’t that the most natural way for people to get a girlfriend, anyway? Surveys show that 56% of people in a relationship actually have met their partners either through common friends or on their job. And if you ask women what they think is the best way to meet a partner, a whole 73% of them will say it’s their social circle.
This means:
Girls expect their partner to show up not on some fancy dating website but rather through common friends, in social activities, on their job or at school.
MySpace and Facebook are the closest you can get to that in the online dating world. And yes, you can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can find a girlfriend on MySpace as well.
So how do you approach a beautiful girl on Facebook? And how do you approach an attractive woman on MySpace?
Here is what most guys will think when they stumple upon a woman’s profile: "Why would she even want to talk to me?". After all, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends, and most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every day — that is, from strangers who are trying to get to know her.
And that’s not really surprising:
Talking to a girl online doesn’t require the courage you might need to approach a woman on the street. Approaching online is safe, because you’re not being embarrassed if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. In fact, if she’s not interested, she probably won’t even reply at all.
Because it seems so easy, even the shyest guys will give it a shot. They figure they’ve got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95% of the messages in a woman’s inbox will sound like "how are you?", "did you have a great weekend?" or "would you like to chat with me?".
Most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on MySpace or Facebook, a cute girl will have learned to spot and delete them in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig websites it’s just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages from our mailboxes without even reading their content.
You are probably wondering right now what to say to a girl on MySpace and what to say to a girl on Facebook.
How do you approach girls in order to stand out?
How do you meet a girl online?
And, finally, how do you get a date on Facebook or MySpace?
You are not the only one with those questions. I’ve been struggling with them three years ago, and today I have written a book about how to date girls on MySpace and Facebook. And I want to share with you what I have learned over the years so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.
What I found is: Dating girls is like building any other connection. You always need three steps. You could call them dating secrets, but in reality, you will find them in any social interaction.
First, you need attention. Second, you need a connection. And, third, you need commitment.
It’s that easy.
Still, most guys will act on their first intuition. They will mix up the three steps as soon as they start to flirt with a girl.
Just ask yourself: What is a guy doing when he starts a conversation by asking an attractive woman how her weekend was? First, isn’t that kind of a weird question, if you consider that he doesn’t know her yet? And second, that’s not exactly getting her attention, is it? If a guy approaches a hot girl by asking her how her weekend was, he’s actually trying to build a connection. He’s trying to make her share her thoughtsfeelings and experiences with him right from the start. A strategy that is most likely to fail: You simply cannot build a connection to somebody unless you’ve got their attention first.
What does attention mean? It means to stand out from the crowd. It means to make her recognize that you are different. It does not mean, however, that you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. To get her attention means to make her curious. At least curious enough to make her reply.
Connection means to show her that you and her have something in common. For instance, you might have the same taste in music. You might both have similar hobbies. And you might share a common sense of humor: If you can laugh together, she will have fun talking to you. And in the end, that will be the foundation for the third step:
Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. At this point, she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only now you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.
Now that is the theory. But how do you apply it?
Many guys ask themselves how to talk to girls. They simply forget who they are and become totally reactive to everything the girl does: They make their first mail a comment about something obvious from the girl’s profile. When she doesn’t reply instantly, they interpret it as a rejection and start to feel bad about themselves. And when she does reply but challenges them by being naughty,
they think she doesn’t like them and draw back with their tail between their legs. The reality is, though: Whenever she replies, she is interested.
Next time you see a beautiful woman on Facebook or on MySpace, send her this message (without the quotes):
Subject: "I really must say…"
Body: "That is a CUTE picture! Who is she? I really like your taste."
You’ll see: 8 out of 10 girls on Facebook, MySpace or on dating websites will reply. This message will get their attention.
The reason is simple:
That message that starts out like most of the everyday mails she’s receiving from other guys ("your’re so cute"), but right in the second sentence, the whole meaning is turned upside down. Basically, you are saying that the picture is hot, and that’s why you simply assume that it’s probably not her. Some girls will laugh about that sudden twist, some won’t, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply.
I don’t want you to get the wrong impression, though:
Flirting is not about pick up lines. You can have the best pick up lines ever, and still never get a date and die as a virgin.
It’s not enough to know how to approach a girl. You also need to know how to talk to a girl.
It is easy to meet girls on Facebook, and it is easy to meet girls on MySpace, but you have to know how to flirt and escalate things. You need to become a master of all three steps of flirting — attention, connection and commitment.
Ordinary dating guides or flirting tips for men won’t get you any further here. They are written by editors in their fourties who work all day in an editor’s office, desperately struggeling to meet the deadline for the next issue of their magazine or to somehow fill up their homepage with content.
You can become good at flirting. It’s not a matter of HOW MUCH you study and try, but rather of WHAT IT IS that you study and try. You can put in hundreds of hours of discipline and optimism, but if you’re practicing the wrong thing, you’ll never see the results you want, no matter how much you deserve them. On the other hand, if you find and do the right thing, you can become better than 80% of all the other guys out there fairly quickly.
To show you what I mean I invite you to read the sample chapter of my book on how to attract girls on Facebook and MySpace.
The book will teach you everything you need: In it, you will learn how to make your profile attractive to girls.
You will learn a step-by-step recipe for the perfect approach message.
You will learn what to talk about with a girl to bond with her.
In the book, you’ll also find games that you can play when you’re writing e-mails with a girl — games that will teach you things about her that she hasn’t even shared with her best friends.
Most important, you will learn how to escalate and transition from talking online to getting her phone number, talking on the phone and meeting her for the first time in real life.
To get instant results you can learn more about dating girls on Facebook and MySpace right now on my website "TheCharmingYou". All the information there is free — and that includes the online dating tips that I send out each week via e-mail.
You will be amazed!
(And don’t forget to try out the approach message you’ve just learned in this article.)
Your friend,
Leonard Baumgardt 
P.S.: I have received lots and lots of e-mails from people who have read my book and who have had tremendous success with it. Of course, I know that it always seems like a risk to buy something online when you don’t know whether it will meet your expectations or not. And because of that, I’m offering a 100%-money-back guarantee to all my readers: If you’re not happy with the book, drop me an e-mail and I will send back your money. I’ve been doing that since I first published the book. So far only 2% of my readers have asked for a refund — while many many more have written me thank-you e-mails and recommended my book to their friends. So that makes me really proud. And it makes me confident, that you will love the book and the results that you’ll be getting with it.
